10 Tips for All the Perfectionists Out There

Striving for perfection can often feel like an endless pursuit, leading to stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction. But breaking free from the grip of perfectionism is not only possible, it's essential for your well-being. Here are some tips on how to overcome perfectionism:

1. Become aware of your perfectionist tendencies. The first step to overcoming perfectionism is to become aware of your own perfectionist thoughts and behaviors. What are your perfectionistic triggers? What are your perfectionistic thoughts? 
   
2. Challenge your negative thoughts. When you have a perfectionistic thought, ask yourself if it is really true. Is it really necessary to be perfect? Is there another way to look at the situation? 
   
3. Set realistic goals. Perfectionists often set unrealistic goals for themselves, which can lead to disappointment and frustration. Instead, set realistic goals that you can actually achieve to help you feel more confident and less stressed.
   
4. Learn to accept mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes (yes, even you Perfectionist!). It is important to learn to accept your mistakes as a normal part of life. Don't beat yourself up over mistakes, instead, learn from them and move on. 
   
5. Practice self-compassion. Perfectionists are often very critical of themselves. It is important to practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself. This means accepting your flaws and imperfections, and being patient with yourself. 
   
6. Reward yourself for your accomplishments. When you achieve a goal, take some time to reward yourself. This will help you feel good about your accomplishments and motivate you to keep going. 
   
7. Focus on the process, not the outcome. Perfectionists often focus on the outcome of a task, rather than the process of completing the task. This can lead to anxiety and stress. Instead, focus on the process of completing the task, and enjoy the journey. 
   
8. Take breaks. Perfectionists often work long hours and don't take breaks. This can lead to burnout and exhaustion (I know this one very well!). It is important to take breaks throughout the day to relax and recharge – you’ll perform MUCH better. 
   
9. Spend time with loved ones. Perfectionists often isolate themselves from others. It is important to spend time with loved ones who support you and accept you for who you are. 
   
10. Seek professional help if needed. If you are struggling to overcome perfectionism on your own and you’re finding it crippling, consider seeking professional help. A therapist or coach can help you understand your perfectionism and develop strategies for overcoming it. 

Remember, overcoming perfectionism is a journey, not a destination. Embrace each step forward with kindness and patience towards yourself. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small, and remember that imperfection is what makes us beautifully human. Keep shining bright on your path towards self-acceptance and fulfillment - You've got this! 

“There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.”

~Shannon L. Alder