6 Brain Tips Mums Need to Regain Their Confidence 💪🏻

Motherhood is a beautiful, challenging journey filled with highs and lows. If you’re a mum feeling like your confidence has taken a hit, you’re not alone. Hannah Porteous-Butler, a maternity coach at The People Practice, has invaluable insights on how mums can rebuild their confidence - she is one of the brilliant people to look out for my upcoming book, 'CONFIDENT' (we have a whole chapter on Motherhood!). Here are 5 tips to help you feel like yourself again.

1. Repeat After Me: “I’m Doing the Best I Can.” 💪🏻

It’s easy to get caught up in self-criticism, but reminding yourself that you’re doing the best you can is a powerful first step. Instead of fixating on what didn’t go as planned, celebrate the small wins—like sharing a laugh with your child or getting them out the door on time.

Your child doesn’t need perfection; they need your love, safety, and kindness. Shift your focus to what truly matters and practice gratitude for the little victories in your day.

2. Accept That Emotions Come and Go 🌦️

Think of emotions like shifting weather—they don’t stay the same forever. Parenthood can bring a whirlwind of feelings, and it’s important to acknowledge them without judgment. If you’re having a tough moment, remind yourself that it’s temporary and doesn’t define you as a parent.

Practicing mindfulness can help you manage emotional ups and downs with greater ease.

3. Take Time to Reconnect with Yourself 🧘🏻‍♂️

In the chaos of parenting, it’s easy to lose sight of who you are outside of being a mum. Prioritise activities that make you feel like you—whether that’s a hobby, a workout, or simply a quiet cup of tea.

When you invest in yourself, you’re not only nurturing your confidence, but also setting a powerful example of self-care for your children.

4. Surround Yourself with Support 🫱🏻‍🫲🏿

Confidence grows when you’re supported by a strong community. Reach out to friends, family, or parenting groups who understand what you’re going through. Sharing your experiences and learning from others can be incredibly uplifting.

Remember, you don’t have to navigate motherhood alone.

5. Let Go of Unrealistic Standards 🏡

Perfection is overrated! Your child doesn’t care if your home looks like a magazine spread or if dinner isn’t gourmet—they care about feeling loved and secure. Letting go of unattainable expectations allows you to focus on what truly matters: being present and engaged.

Give yourself grace, celebrate progress over perfection and just PLAY with your kids!  The research shows it will make all the difference in their security and overall wellbeing.

Motherhood isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, resilient, and kind to yourself. By embracing these five strategies, you can reclaim your confidence and thrive in every season of parenting.

Who needs to hear these tips today?  Why not forward to them so they can give themselves a hug too?

Take care,

Caroline